Almost There
I arrived home from Vegas to a divorce decree. That sounds like STBEX is an ass, like he found a shitty way to end my trip, but that’s not true. I knew it was coming and I fully expected him to give it to me, actually a couple weeks ago.
Everyone keeps telling me that I should have my own attorney, and lots of people have stories of women who have gotten screwed by not having an attorney. But honestly, having worked in HR and Benefits for so long, I have seen more than my fair share of divorce decrees. I decided to read through it and then decide if I needed someone to help me. But honestly, I don’t. I understand it all, and it was almost fine. The first draft had a mistake in it, and I brought it up, and STBEX agreed that it should be changed. I got the new decree in the mail today. It’s all fine now.
Friday while Betsy is at school, I’ll go find myself a notary, get the bitch signed and mail it back. Then I’ll just have to wait until the 60-day clock runs out – it started back in January – and I’ll be divorced.
I feel….. I’m not sure how I feel. Sad, but not overwhelmingly so. I could be all cried out after my emotional breakdown in Vegas. Maybe it’ll hit me later. I don’t know. I will say that after lots of talking in Vegas, and my girls wondering why I’m not angry, I did finally get…. not mad but a bit righteously indignant about the whole thing. I can only guess that’s a good thing.
Sigh. When will this start to feel normal?
February 25th, 2010 at 7:57 am
My guess is never.
Smooches!
February 25th, 2010 at 11:41 am
thinking of you, sweetie…
February 25th, 2010 at 12:08 pm
Hugs….
February 25th, 2010 at 1:38 pm
Big MN hugs coming your way!!
February 25th, 2010 at 1:56 pm
Sucks! But someday, you’ll get your groove back.
February 25th, 2010 at 2:19 pm
WILL it feel normal?
I’m glad you made it to Vegas. It sounds like a supremely awesome weekend!
March 3rd, 2010 at 12:19 am
Hey, if you want to come out to Reno/Lake Tahoe area, I’m sure I could fry us up some mean Oreos. Just for you.
March 3rd, 2010 at 7:43 am
I love that bowser has a pseudonym. Just sayin’.
I suspect, based on how all the crap flew with my own parents divorce, that several years from now you will look back, shake your head, and it will still feel like a late-night soap that you falter between feeling a part of the cast of characters, and part observer. Normal may never come, but I figure if it makes you quirkier, that’s not necessarily a bad thing.